COMMUNITY GUIDELINES

Effective Date: October 16, 2025
Last Updated: October 16, 2025

WELCOME TO NAPALM SKY

BUMPIn is a community built on genuine human connection. These Community Guidelines help create a safe, respectful, and enjoyable environment for everyone seeking meaningful interactions.

By using BUMPIn, you agree to follow these guidelines.

OUR MISSION

"For hopeless romantics who believe genuine connection shouldn't require a perfect bio."

We created BUMPIn to help people make authentic connections through face-to-face video conversations, skipping the superficiality of text-based dating apps.

CORE VALUES

1. Authenticity

Be yourself. Real connections start with honesty.

2. Respect

Treat everyone with dignity, regardless of whether there's romantic interest.

3. Safety

Look out for yourself and others. Report concerning behavior.

4. Kindness

A little kindness goes a long way. Remember there's a real person on the other side of the screen.

5. Open-mindedness

You'll meet people from diverse backgrounds. Embrace the opportunity to learn.

THE GOLDEN RULE

Treat others as you would want to be treated.

Every person on BUMPIn is seeking connection, just like you. Show them the same respect and consideration you'd hope to receive.

WHAT WE EXPECT

✅ DO:

Be Respectful

Listen actively when others are speaking
Accept rejection gracefully - not everyone will be interested, and that's okay
End conversations politely if you're not interested
Be patient with different communication styles
Respect boundaries immediately when stated

Be Honest

Use your real name or a name you commonly go by
Upload recent, accurate photos of yourself
Be truthful about your age, intentions, and identity
Manage expectations - be clear about what you're looking for

Be Safe

Protect your personal information until you're comfortable
Trust your instincts - if something feels off, end the call
Report concerning behavior to keep the community safe
Meet in public if taking connections offline
Never share financial information

Be Engaging

Start conversations with genuine interest
Ask thoughtful questions to get to know someone
Share about yourself authentically
Be present during video calls (no multitasking)
Follow through if you make plans to connect again

Be Understanding

Technical issues happen - be patient with connection problems
People get nervous - help others feel comfortable
Cultural differences exist - approach them with curiosity
Not everyone is a great conversationalist - give people a chance
Timezone differences matter - be flexible with availability

❌ DON'T:

Don't Be Disrespectful

Don't harass, bully, or intimidate anyone
Don't make unwanted sexual comments or advances
Don't judge based on appearance, race, gender, religion, etc.
Don't mock or ridicule anyone for any reason
Don't use slurs or hate speech

Don't Be Dishonest

Don't catfish or use fake photos/videos
Don't impersonate anyone
Don't lie about your age, especially if under 18
Don't misrepresent your intentions (e.g., pretending to want dating when you want business)

Don't Be Inappropriate

Don't expose yourself or engage in sexual behavior on camera
Don't make sexual gestures or suggestions
Don't pressure anyone for contact information
Don't ask for or share explicit content
Don't record or screenshot video calls without explicit consent

Don't Be a Nuisance

Don't spam or send repetitive messages
Don't promote businesses or solicit commercially
Don't ask for money from other users
Don't abuse platform features (fake reports, ban evasion, etc.)
Don't waste people's time with insincere interactions

VIDEO CHAT ETIQUETTE

Before the Call

Choose an appropriate location - private but not intimate (no bedrooms with beds visible, no bathrooms)
Check your lighting - make sure you're visible
Dress appropriately - casual is fine, but wear clothes
Minimize background noise - find a quiet spot
Test your connection - ensure stable internet

During the Call

Make eye contact - look at the camera when speaking
Smile and be friendly - first impressions matter
Ask questions - show genuine interest
Listen actively - don't dominate the conversation
Be yourself - authenticity is attractive
Keep it appropriate - remember this is a first meeting
Respect the timer - both users agreed to the duration

Ending the Call

Say goodbye politely - even if not interested
Exchange socials if both interested - mutual interest is key
Thank them for their time - be gracious
Report if necessary - if they violated guidelines
Don't ghost mid-call - properly end the conversation

REJECTION ETIQUETTE

If You're Not Interested:

✓ Be polite and kind - "It was nice meeting you, but I don't think we're a match"
✓ Be honest but tactful - you don't need to give detailed reasons
✓ End the conversation gracefully - wish them well
✓ Use the decline button if they're trying to connect again

✗ Don't ghost without explanation
✗ Don't be cruel or insulting - "You're ugly" is unacceptable
✗ Don't lead people on - false hope is unkind
✗ Don't give fake contact info - just decline

If You're Rejected:

✓ Accept it gracefully - "Thanks for being honest, good luck!"
✓ Move on - there are plenty of other people to meet
✓ Don't take it personally - compatibility is complex
✓ Keep a positive attitude - the right person is out there

✗ Don't argue or demand reasons - they don't owe you an explanation
✗ Don't insult them - sour grapes are unattractive
✗ Don't try to change their mind - respect their decision
✗ Don't report out of spite - rejection is not a violation

SAFETY GUIDELINES

Protect Yourself

Don't share immediately:
- Full name
- Home address
- Workplace details
- Financial information
- Exact location
Trust your instincts:
- If something feels wrong, it probably is
- End the call if you're uncomfortable
- You're never obligated to continue a conversation
Take your time:
- Don't rush into sharing personal details
- Get to know someone gradually
- Move to other platforms when YOU'RE ready
Be cautious meeting offline:
- Meet in public places
- Tell a friend where you're going
- Arrange your own transportation
- Stay sober enough to stay safe
- Trust your gut - you can always leave

Red Flags to Watch For

🚩 Immediate red flags:

Asks for money or financial help
Pressures you for personal information
Becomes aggressive when you set boundaries
Makes you feel uncomfortable or scared
Sends you to external websites immediately
Avoids video (though this is required on our platform)
Stories don't add up or keep changing

🚩 Romance scam warning signs:

Declares strong feelings very quickly ("love at first sight")
Has an elaborate sob story (sick relative, stranded overseas, etc.)
Can't meet in person (always an excuse)
Asks you to receive/send packages or money
Claims to be military, working overseas, or in an emergency situation
Grammar or spelling seems off (possible foreign scammer)

If you see these signs, report the user immediately.

RESPECTING DIVERSITY

We Welcome Everyone

BUMPIn users come from all backgrounds, including diverse:

Races and ethnicities
Religions and spiritual beliefs
Gender identities and expressions
Sexual orientations
Nationalities and cultures
Body types and appearances
Abilities and disabilities
Socioeconomic backgrounds

What This Means

✓ Do:

Treat everyone with equal respect
Be open to learning about different perspectives
Ask respectful questions if curious
Recognize your own biases
Apologize if you unintentionally offend

✗ Don't:

Make assumptions based on appearance
Use stereotypes or generalizations
Make offensive "jokes" about protected groups
Fetishize or objectify based on race, ethnicity, etc.
Discriminate or exclude based on any characteristic

Dating Preferences vs. Discrimination

Having preferences is okay:

You can choose not to match with someone for any reason
You don't have to explain your preferences
Personal attraction is subjective and individual

Being disrespectful is not okay:

You must decline politely
Don't make derogatory comments
Don't state preferences in offensive ways
Treat everyone with basic human respect

REPORTING AND MODERATION

When to Report

Report a user if they:

Violate these Community Guidelines
Make you feel unsafe or uncomfortable
Engage in harassment or abuse
Display inappropriate content
Appear to be under 18
Seem to be scamming or defrauding
Are engaging in illegal activity

How to Report

After a call: Use the "Report & Block User" button
In matchmaking: Use the report option on their profile
Urgent issues: Email us at everything@napalmsky.com
Emergencies: Contact local law enforcement (911 in USA)

What Happens After You Report

We receive your report
We review the reported user's account
If we find violations, we may:
- Issue a warning (minor/first offense)
- Temporarily suspend their account (under review)
- Permanently ban them (serious/repeated violations)
- Add them to the public blacklist (permanent bans)
- Report to law enforcement (illegal activity)

Automatic Bans

If a user receives 4+ reports from different users:

They are automatically temporarily banned
Their case is reviewed by our team
We decide: permanent ban OR vindication
Ban decisions are final

PUBLIC BLACKLIST

What It Is

We maintain a public blacklist of permanently banned users to promote transparency and community safety.

Who Gets Blacklisted

Users who are permanently banned for:

Serious violations (harassment, abuse, illegal activity)
Multiple violations despite warnings
Egregious misconduct

What's Displayed

Name
Profile photo
Introduction video
Ban reason (general)
Number of reports
Date of ban

Why We Do This

Accountability: Real consequences for bad behavior
Transparency: Users can see enforcement in action
Deterrence: Knowing bans are public discourages violations
Safety: Warns others about problematic individuals

By using BUMPIn, you consent to potential blacklist disclosure if permanently banned.

SPECIAL SITUATIONS

Awkward Conversations

Sometimes calls just don't flow well. That's normal!

What to do:

Give it a genuine effort - sometimes people are just nervous
Ask open-ended questions to get conversation going
Share something interesting about yourself
If it's truly not working, politely end the call early

Not a violation: Awkward conversations or bad chemistry aren't reportable offenses.

Language Barriers

You may match with someone who speaks a different primary language.

What to do:

Be patient and speak clearly
Use simple language if needed
Appreciate the effort they're making
If communication is too difficult, politely explain

Be respectful: Accent or language skill is not a reason to be rude.

Technical Issues

Video/audio problems happen.

What to do:

Be patient and understanding
Try refreshing if needed
Suggest reconnecting if possible
Don't report for technical issues unless you suspect they're faking it

Someone Seems Unsafe to Themselves

If someone expresses suicidal thoughts or self-harm:

Be compassionate and listen
Encourage them to seek professional help:
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA): 988
- Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
- International: findahelpline.com
Report to us so we can follow up
Don't diagnose or counsel - you're not a professional

FOR MINORS WHO STUMBLED HERE

If you are under 18, you cannot use this platform.

This is for your safety. Please leave immediately.

Resources for teens seeking support:

Teen Line: 1-800-852-8336 (call/text)
Crisis Text Line: Text HELLO to 741741
TrevorProject (LGBTQ youth): 1-866-488-7386

YOUR ROLE IN OUR COMMUNITY

Every user shapes the BUMPIn community. You have the power to:

✨ Make someone's day with a genuine compliment
✨ Help someone feel comfortable if they're nervous
✨ Report bad actors to keep the community safe
✨ Be the kind of user you'd want to match with
✨ Spread kindness even when there's no romantic connection

Together, we create the community we want.

CONSEQUENCES OF VIOLATIONS

Warning (Minor/First Offense)

Email notification of violation
Explanation of what was wrong
Reminder of guidelines
No access restriction

Temporary Suspension (Under Review)

Account suspended pending investigation
Cannot access platform during suspension
Review typically completed within 72 hours
Outcome: vindication OR permanent ban

Permanent Ban (Serious/Repeated Violations)

Account permanently terminated
All IP addresses banned
Added to public blacklist
No appeals or reinstatement
May be reported to authorities if illegal

Reporting False Reports

Abuse of the reporting system may result in action against your own account.

APPEALS

Can I Appeal a Ban?

Temporary bans: Automatically reviewed, no appeal needed

Permanent bans: Decisions are final. No appeals.

Exception: If you believe you were banned in error due to mistaken identity or technical error, you may email everything@napalmsky.com with evidence. We will review but make no guarantees.

UPDATES TO GUIDELINES

We may update these guidelines to reflect community needs and platform changes.

You'll be notified of changes via:

Email (if provided)
In-app notification
Banner on the platform

Continued use constitutes acceptance of updated guidelines.

FINAL THOUGHTS

BUMPIn is what we make it together. These guidelines exist to create a space where everyone feels respected, safe, and excited to make genuine connections.

Thank you for being part of our community.

CONTACT US

Questions about these guidelines?

BUMPIn Community Team
Email: everything@napalmsky.com
Website: napalmsky.com

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

By using BUMPIn, you acknowledge that you have read and agree to follow these Community Guidelines.

Let's make genuine connections, together.

Last Updated: October 16, 2025